Grieving doesn’t mean leaving

Where do people go after they die? We know their physical body is no longer with us, but is there more to the after death experience than we know? Each religion provides its believers with an answer. In Christianity, it is heaven or hell. In Judaism, it is a place they called the Gehenna. All notions of an afterlife are speculations. Survivors are traditionally left with only treasured memories.

In the supernatural realm, many people claimed they were able to communicate with a departed loved one. Since such an experience is subjective, it cannot be disproven. However, if it provides survivors with solace and a cushion of emotional comfort, it should not be dismissed as witchcraft or sorcery,

A human being consists of a mind, body, and spirit. While the existence of mind and body are self-evident, its spiritual component remains an enigma.

People often confuse spirituality with religion. People can be both religious and spiritual, but it is also possible to be religious without being spiritual, or to be spiritual without being religious.

Spiritual individuals respect the quality of life, are kind and always willing to do things for others, are not judgmental, are open-minded and tolerant, have an holistic and altruistic approach to life and look at things from different perspectives.

Houdini, the world famous magician, said that he would try to communicate with his wife after he died. Although he was unsuccessful, there are many ordinary people who genuinely believe they succeeded in communicating with a deceased loved one. The deceased appeared and behaved as if they were still alive. In recent years, clinicians have come to recognize the value of a continuing connection with the deceased. Experts now believe that moving forward with one’s life does not necessarily require letting go of one’s relationship with the deceased. To those who grieve the loss of a loved one, the credibility of postmortem communication is an indisputable experience.

Communication with the deceased can take many forms, including an overwhelming sense of the loved one’s presence; the visual appearance of the deceased; the physical sensation of being touched, held or kissed.

People who have not experienced any communication with their deceased loved one are quite upset about it. One man said, “I long for contact with my wife, I would give anything to see her again or to hear her voice.”

Those who grieve could benefit greatly from knowing how frequently these communications occur. It would be comforting for them to know that they are not alone and that their sanity is not playing tricks on them.

Again, grieving doesn’t mean leaving. As long as a loved one remains in our head, heart, and memory, they will be with us as long as we live.

Professor Eisenberg was born in New York City and now lives in Belleair Bluffs. He served in the U.S. Marine Corps in World War II. His career consisted of teaching interpersonal/intercultural communication, public speaking, organizational communication, nonverbal communication, group dynamics, and persuasion at four major universities including Pace University and Manhattanville College in New York. His publications include 19 textbooks on various aspects of communication. Send comments to: aeisenberg3@tampabay.rr.com.

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